To plot and destroy...

This has been quite a week. It all started back on Monday when my younger sibling whom I shall refer to as SOS, had hacked into several of my internet accounts. I should add that I am estranged by choice from my parents and two siblings due to irreconcilable differences and a history of childhood abuse. SOS is all about the money and what she stands to gain from the situation. Needless to say, she will often do their dirty work for them. But things went a little too far...

The first thing I had noticed was that SOS had posted several remarks on Twitter that seemed to imply that something was about to happen to someone she thought very little of. That someone was me obviously. One such status she wrote:  'waiting for the boom.' I knew exactly who this was intended for long before it ever happened. Next thing I knew my Mother who is well into her late 60's and totally computer illiterate, suddenly had a Twitter account of her own. The two of them were going back and forth as if to find humor in the situation. Several references to the bible and quotes that were clearly being directed at me. Quotes that I had heard so many times before that I found brutally offensive and had responded to in several heated emails so many months before.

To go back a bit...
Things had been relatively quiet up until I found my long lost sister of 20 yrs. My family had their own personal reasons for keeping us apart. They had always resorted to methods of control and manipulation in order to form their own sense of allegiance. I always knew that their controlling ways would ultimately put an end to our relationship some day. My relationship with them was very unhealthy and extremely toxic. In more recent years they had plotted to put an end to my marriage.

It wasn't until we relocated half way across the country that things really started to change between them and me. Our relationship naturally distanced itself and contact with them became less and less. Which was a good thing. My husband and I saw an immediate change in our marriage, etc. Things improved for the better so much so, that I really began to analyze my relationship with them. I sought counseling in early 2010 since the issues from my childhood had begun to resurface due to all of the changes going on around me. I was falling into a deep depression and was drowning in guilt that made no sense to me whatsoever. It was painfully apparent to me that I needed help. During that same time frame I endured a  pregnancy loss that only complicated matters.

We took a trip back home in July of 2010 and that seemed to be the breaking point for both my husband and I. Their acts of control and rude behavior were that much more apparent to me. It took being away from them to come to that realization. I found their actions to be both selfish and inappropriate. My husband had struck ill at the very start of our vacation and spent much of his time sick in bed, surrounded by his own family. While I was coerced into leaving him to travel Westward to SOS's house since she had apparently refused to come out to us. I was then dragged to Niagara Falls for no good reason. A place I had already visited once before and could have done without. But my family vacation was under the control of my parents, not me. And I was the foolish one to allow it. Many months before I had laid down some ground rules and had basically refused to travel any place since I was already traveling far enough as it was. But the plans were made and I was at their mercy since there was no rental car accessible to us at the time. Yet another form of control. They had agreed to get the rental car long before our scheduled arrival and we trusted that they would. And believe me it was all very intentional.

On our way back from being out West, my husband had taken a turn for the worse and was actually in the hospital at one point. Of course I wanted to be by his side. It was then that my Mother suggested I leave him right where he was and to return with them to their house, since it was approaching the late night hours and the kids were falling asleep in the backseat. I was appalled by the suggestion. As it was I had already left my husband behind when I never should have left him at all. I certainly wasn't about to leave him for another night. To make matters worse, he had no place to sleep but on the floor at my sister in-laws house, surrounded by cats that he was allergic to. My family knew this, just didn't care.

I was so disgusted. In addition to all of this, I had several altercations between my Mother during the trip to Niagara Falls. I found her to be extremely unstable and that her behavior made me most uncomfortable. At times I just had to walk away from her. It was that embarrassing.

Long story short, I could not get home fast enough.  All signs of homesickness seemed to melt away in an instance. I remember when the plane touched down, that sigh of relief to be back home and to have our lives back.

My relationship between my parents and I came to a sudden end in early October 2010. By this time it was bordering unrepairable and the feuding seemed to continue and then escalate via email for a few months after wards. I was not budging on my position since they refused to accept any kind of responsibility for themselves. I was positively blown away by my Mother's actions primarily since they were downright childish. We cut each other off completely in early November and that was that. It was quiet throughout the holidays, well into the New Year. In addition to that I had suffered another miscarriage in early January.

Of course I had been in counseling for some time already and had been discussing my family troubles and matters relating to my childhood. My older sister would often come up during my sessions. It was suggested to me many times that I simply go out and find her. But I wanted to be in a better place emotionally before doing so. I really took my time to get my head screwed on straight before pursuing her.

When I finally found her a little over 2 weeks ago, it was this whirlwind of emotion. Excitement, coupled with fear... Rather ironically -fear of my family finding out. Not because I respected them or anything like that. I just knew that there would be consequences for it one way or another. And there most certainly was...

The 'Boom' that was referenced in SOS's Twitter was the actual hacking of my Myspace page firstly. A page I had for years. They knew it was one of my favorite past times. More or less a hobby and that I had countless photos stored in the albums there. They wanted to fight back and this was the best thing they could come up with. They wanted to hit me below the belt and they couldn't find a better alternative than that of taking something of value away from me. They were childishly laughing back and forth via Twitter in the hours before my page disappeared. At one point I actually suspected it might be internet related since my sister went to school for computers and knew how to do it. I was going to chance my password when I discovered that it was already too late. My page was no longer functioning. My name could not be found in the search and my log in was not working. I put two and two together and snapped. I immediately created a Twitter account and told them both off. I let them have it but good. And for the first time in my life.

Next thing I knew, my husband came home from work wanting to know what the hell was going on. I was a little confused since this was done in the privacy of my own home while my husband was at work unaware. Or so I thought... he said that HR had called him down to their offices due to a complaint made against him. Claiming that he had been harassing them during business hours from his office chair. The person wanted to know why an employee of theirs was behaving this way while on the clock. It was viciously written with the intention of causing harm. My husband could have potentially been fired from his job over this.

The following day, my husband was able to consult with HR to access the IP address associated with the original email complaint. Sure enough, it came out of the very town and state where my sister resides. She was the one who thought up this clever plot to get my husband fired from his job. My sister has always resented my husband since he excelled in his career while her husband was going nowhere. They never really got along due to her own control issues. She tried to run our entire wedding and it nearly got called off on account of her so many years earlier. So my husband and her had issues long before now. She despised my husband and made no secret of it.

What got us so angry was that she literally put my husband, myself AND kids at risk of losing our source of income. It was done with the intent to destroy and was a vicious attack. As the days wore on, my Facebook and email had begun acting up also. I feel so violated. I have Myspace investigating, etc. If I am able to prove that she hacked into my personal accounts, I will proceed and file police reports against her. Between this and her song lyric death threats, I have reached my breaking point. I had done nothing to instigate the situation. This was my sister who has an axe to grind with me, being coerced by my own Mother who ALWAYS has to have the last word. I have no doubt that their intentions were to plot and destroy both me and my family.

My husband did address the entire family with an email, wanting an apology letter to be sent directly to his company, etc. But they failed to respond. I think it is fair to assume that they acted on impulse alone, without thinking it through and now regret it. Because what they did was a very serious offense and we could actually pursue legal action against them if absolutely necessary. My husband and I were keeping to ourselves, but they just continued to instigate the situation. When they learned of my reunion with my sister, that seemed to fuel the situation even more so. Sad but true...

Needless to say, our week has been hell on earth. My husband's job is safe -thank God. In fact the HR department offered to help in the event something more were to transpire with the situation. I can only hope that this is the end. Of course I worry because these people are psychologically deranged and have always used their money to manipulate people. Since they have so much to hide, they are on the offensive and always will be.

This week is finally over and now I can get back to focusing on my relationship with my sister again. A sister I lost more than 20 yrs ago at the hand of these people. I am happy to report that I have finally broke free of their control and will continue to heal with every passing day. The weight on my shoulders has been lifted and I no longer have to live with the guilt associated with turning my back on her. I am back for good and I won't ever leave her side again. My greatest gift yet... forgiveness.      

 
               

New Space...

LIFE:
So here I am after having been hacked or deleted by Myspace after 10 long years. I feel as though I just went through the worst break up in the history. I lost albums of pictures more than 5 years old. Pictures of my daughter's first days of life. Pictures of my children's football games and cheerleading competitions, etc.

Sadly, there are underlying causes for my deletion. Yes, I confess to being cyberbullied into a corner by my sister 9 yrs my junior. In time I will educate anyone who wishes to follow my future blogs as to why there is so much conflict in my life. As I am sure there is bound to be an occasional rant here or there regarding my crazy family members to help spice things up a bit. ; )

Of course they are not all crazy. I have some amazing people in my family too, whom I positively love and adore. I will be sure to be more specific in future postings to avoid any confusion. 


FAMILY: 
I am a SAHM of 4. My first three children were born during my first marriage and are now 16, 14 and 11. I was remarried in 2005 to a  man who literally came into our lives and swept us right off of our feet. In 2007 we brought our first child together into the world. During that time we also legally changed the children's names and our family was officially complete!

...Or so we thought... 

LOSS:
Upon losing Myspace I also lost a number of blogs relating to my two recent pregnancy losses that I had experienced within 6 months of each other. However unfortunate my daily blogs were not backed up on a disc and I lost them all. Sad memories nonetheless, but this would also include the details prior to each loss as well. My positive pregnancy tests, photo's, joyous announcements and moments. All gone in an instance.


THE FUN STUFF:
More so than not, my blogs are intended to be fun. Silly at times even. I will be posting a lot of helpful tips and links to assist with all of your 'beginner' scrapbooking needs.

I am a newbie scrapbook-aholic myself. What led me to this hobby was my desire to get into something that was very creative and fun. But it had to be something that could be easily self taught and cost effective. I had already tried to crochet and knit but lacked the coordination and dexterity to create that perfect chain. A total fail.

As time has gone on my materials have expanded significantly and I am really looking forward to purchasing my very first Cricut within the next couple of weeks. I will try my very best to post the details as I learn them for those of you who are interested.

...Well that's about it! Welcome to my New Space page everyone! Have a Happy Day!  : )